Well, I'm finally back. It has been a rough week and I really had many things going on. While trying to figure out why things go the way they do, and how to deal with it all I have learned many things. Now, I get the chance to share what I feel in my heart and what I have learned with you. 
Why do we have difficulties? Our fiery tribulations...as they call it? We all go through the rough times, even though they are difficult so that God can prepare us to be who He expects us to be. It's mainly how we deal with those things that can bring us into the place that He needs us. He brings us through the fire...when I think of being in the fire, I think of Hell...yep, it's that bad sometimes! But fire is not always bad. God tells us that he will refine us like silver to make us clean. That, even though it is difficult, it helps to make us better. What about being the clay for God to mold us. I can't imagine that moving, working and forming the clay into a usable piece would feel too good getting pushed and squeezed and pulled into the right shape. Then, to finish the piece it goes into the oven for the "fire" to set it in that shape. Yep, more fire...ouch! It's getting hot in here!
How do we deal with it? That's what God is really looking at. Have we learned enough through His Word (Bible) to know how we are "suppose" to deal with it? Or, is the question really, do we "DO" the things we "KNOW" we are suppose to do when going though these difficult times?
If the difficulties are things in your life, do you meet them head on and not hide? Sleep was a thing of choice for me...If I hide in bed, maybe it will just go away... I would be so tired...lay there, cry and feel sorry for myself and cry out to God ...why??? Does it make it better? No, it just makes it take longer to find the solution and doesn't really accomplish anything, and we do not grow. Prayer, prayer, prayer is the best!!! Prayer and ACTION on my part works soooo much better. This is one lesson I have learned. I am blessed with many prayer warriors out there. You know who you are! Thank you for ALWAYS being willing to pray for me and my ministry, asking for God's Will to be done, and boy have I kept you all busy through the years! Things aren't always easy, but God does help us through, if we ask. 
If the difficulty is with another Believer, God has asked us to "GO" to that person. Not talk with others, not cause a ruckus, not make it a topic of conversation and more of a war against others. This only lets Satan in the church and makes a division within it's family. Sometimes there is a "problem" that the other person might not even know exists! If, after you meet together you cannot come to an agreement, then take another with you and finally go to the leaders of the church.
I have learned these lessons. As a leader it is always my responsibility to go to my brother or sister in Christ to talk it over. I have learned over the years to talk to them, but more importantly to listen. I used to "listen" by finding something in the conversation that I disagreed with and was forming my "rebuttal" while they were still talking. So, I for sure was not even listening to the rest of their conversation. Now I know how to listen better. That is one lesson that has definitely allowed me to grow. I thank God for my "fires". It's not so great while I am going through them, but the result, and the reason I am experiencing them is making me a better person, (if I look for them).
Do I think I'm perfect? No. I have a long way to go! But...with God's help, and probably more fire, someday I may even hear Him say to me...Well done, good and faithful friend!
I am hoping that today, this pouring out from my heart, will help others to stay out of the middle of the fire. That you could see my mistakes and maybe only be a little singed on the edges during your "firing". I pray that you will always ask God to help you though and act the way He is asking you to. I know we all want to be a light for Him...lets do it...together!